Gospel-Centered Pro-Life Podcast
Gospel-Centered Pro-Life Podcast

Episode 138 · 6 months ago

Effective Sidewalk Strategy

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The Lord has graciously given us some effective strategies to reach people at the abortion centers. In this episode, we encourage and challenge you with some of these effective strategies. 

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Number Thirteen, number thirteen, Gospel Center doom. Yeah, this is a big one. Yeah, and it's number thirteen to say that. Yes, true, we could, we could add on the bonus. I do think this one sanctifies the number thirteen. If you're superstitious, this will take care of that. I Am Yours, I am yours, I am yours, and me Lord, I am yours, I am yours. I'm welcome to the Gospel Center Pro Life Podcast, a podcast designed to equip, encourage and challenge you in pro life ministry and always were the focus on the Gospel. Stay tuned. I felt show passish, touch your heart. Use Me. Welcome back to the Gospel centered pro life podcast. Appreciate you guys joining us and, as always, we'd appreciate if you guys would share this podcast with friends people that you know would be blessed to get a hold of this content. So share this episode and also give us some feedback. will have our email addresses available for you guys at the end of this episode and we do encourage you guys reach out to us with any suggestions that you have, maybe questions, struggles that you're having in your ministry at the abortion center. We would love to help talk through those struggles with you, help answer questions as much as we're able to, and so, yeah, feel free to reach out again. We'll give your email addresses at the end of this podcast episode. And so we're going to hop into our subject. So we're going to talk about the essential things that you need to know for sidewalk outreach. Over the course of our over two years of doing podcasts. Yeah, we have probably touched on all of these, but as separate podcast I thought it would be a good idea to just for especially for a new sidewalk outreach team, to have a list of what are the things that we feel are critical for...

...a sidewalk team to know and to do? Okay, so that's what kind of sparked the list. Yeah, and I started off with the desire for ten, okay, essentials, but it didn't quite work out. Yeah, but not now. Now, I can't have like forty seven, forty seven essential things to know. No, it's right, it's not. Hundreds and thousands of me sensions, a lot of essentials. Are are a lot of essentials, but we did try to pair it down to at least the top. I don't know, twenty. You have. You have thirteen on one page here, right, and then I turned to the next page and it's bonus ideas. That's keeping a ten. Couldn't keep it the thirteen. You have two, have some. So there's some bonus right features. He said this was yeah, and then there's the less see cential, but they're still essentials. Yeah, we call those the bonus I. So we're going to try to keep this the thirty minutes or less, and so we'll try to go through these pretty quickly and then if we can get to some of the bonus ones, will get to some of the bonus ones, but if not, you guys will have to check out the article. So let's start with number one. Essential thing to know in sidewalk out reach. What is that? To honor and glorify God. Yeah, how that we think can do and say, yeah, that is the absolute primary goal of every sidewalk outreach. Yeah, yeah, it should be the goal of any ministry, if we're going to call it ministry, the focus has to be the Lord, honoring glorifying him, the way that we act, the way that we talk and even the motives of our heart, as best we can, discerning the motives of our heart. If our motives are just to glorify ourselves or to make ourselves feel like better Christians or whatever, we need to bring those motives to the Lord. We need to come with pure motives if we're going to serve in this ministry. So that's absolutely essential. God is number one. Yep, Yep. So, yeah, no particular order of the other ones,...

...by the way they go just we're all what I thought were very important. So so the next two to know the facility. Yeah, I mean you got to know. When are they open? Yeah, when do they do abortions? You want to know when, what hours you're going to reach the most women. Yeah, before you go there, it'd be good to try and find well, you might have to go there to scope that right, but sometimes you can find that online or whatever. Yeah, you can, and I can give some tips to be able to figure this stuff out. It's important to know. I mean, there's only so much information you can know. We know a lot of information about our local abortion centers here because we got people that are out there every day they're open and a lot of observation going on. A lot of people that have been out here for years. We've had a lot of conversations with former abortion workers, and so information has been gathered over the years about these abortion clinics in Charlotte, because we've been out here for some years. But when there's a new abortionist or something, it does sometimes present itself as a challenge to figure out who that is. And while we want to know that well, we want to know what their track record is so we can warn people that are going to go in and and be subjected, subjected to their their horrible practices often times. Yeah, yeah, and so a few tips in this realm. The first thing is there's a website, abortion finder dot org. It's a pro abortion website. Actually, it was put together by some pro abortion people to help women, and I'm doing air quotes, navigate through the landscape of reproductive healthcare. Okay, so what their goal is to show women where they can go to have abortions instead of going to pregnancy centers, because a lot of pregnancy centers compete in search engine optimization on Google with abortion centers, and so women end up at pregn to see centers rather than an abortion centers. Of course,...

...you and I think that's great plan. Parenthood. Abortion providers don't think it's great because it diverts people from them. And so this website, abortion finder dot org, has actually been a really helpful tool for me as I'm looking across the nation and seeking to try to raise up teams and certain areas. As we as an organization or trying to do that, we could find where these abortion centers are by using that pro abortion website. All you do is put your city in city and state and then ask a few little other questions that you can answer, push search and it will show you all the abortion centers in a particular area. It will tell you how far long they do abortions, what type of abortions they do that. Do they do just the abortion peel or do they do abortion peel and surgical abortions? It'll give you all that information. That's US actually. I mean it's not awesome, but right, it's useful. It's very yes, and it's using the enemies tool, yeah, I mean the Devil's tool, yeah, against him. Yeah. And then another thing to do to be able to figure out information that many people might not think of is read the reviews on Google. Once you go an abortion finder dot org, you find out where the abortion centers at just copy the name and the address of it, throw it in Google and you'll see reviews there. Read those reviews, because a lot of those reviews will they'll tell you a lot of things. If you pick up on patterns, you can see people saying they showed up at a particular time and they had to wait a particular amount of time, and so some of them are angry at that. I'm kind of giving all this stuff away. So these are like these are like top secret tips. Hopefully this will bless you, guys and encourage you. But you can also find the abortionist names a lot of times, yeah, on the reviews, and these are positive reviews. A lot of times so and so Dr so and so was such a great doctor. And then you know the abortionist name. You can google search...

...them, find citations that are on their medical record and things like that. Again, we're not we're not creeping on these people as far as like going to their houses and stuff. I don't encourage you to do that at all, but it's good to know who these people are. Yeah, because these people first of all, like we need to be praying for these people specifically by name, that they come to know the Lord. There have been abortionists that have repented of abortions and come to the Lord. So we need to be praying for them by name, but also we need to know their track record so we can warn people about what they have done in their past and the danger that they're putting themselves in. Right, and and you know any other doctor you would go to. That's public records. You can jined it. You cannot find it unless you dig it's very right. Coult to find it. On who's going to be doing the abortion? Yeah, maybe women are showing up to yeah, so I spent a little little longer on that one then probably most of the other ones of but let's go ahead and go through the rest as much as we can. Yeah, the three talking points is the third point that focus on. Organize your speech at the abortion center, depending on no matter how much time you have, you should always try and get in the three main talking points. We have done that to be very effective. Yeah, and those are well, they are what God says, the humanity of the baby and the resources that are available. Right, right, practice them, practice in front of a mirror. Yeah, practice what you would say in fifteen seconds, a minute, five minutes. It's and longer. Yeah. Yeah, and we did a whole part, a whole podcast about the three talking points. Yeah, talk about those in probably every other podcast, if not every podcast. So yeah, I mean this is just a framework for speaking to people at the abortion center. Three main subjects to be covering. Yeah, as you're reaching out of the abortion centers. Yeah, the fourth one is to have literature ready and figure out where you're going to set up your team members, where it's where they can hand...

...out that literature. Yeah, optimally. Yeah, whatever literature you have, we have some that we put out. Yeah, there is even some on our website, right sidebox for life. Isn't there? It right. But yeah, so if you're not part of love life and you're looking for literature to hand out, we do have a template, sort of like a generic version of what we use under love life that you can print out. You can have it printed at a local printer or some printer print shops online can do that for you for fairly cheap. But I mean there's other things out there that you can get a hold of. Tiny hands that hold my heart is a brochure that we used to use for a long time. I think you can go on tiny hands bookcom or dot org, one of the two. Yeah, and you can order those. So that's a that's a good one as well. Yeah, and as far as this team placement thing, you've got to be thinking in terms of where are people likely to stop to take literature? If it's a busy road, you're not going to get people to stop. If it's a busy and fast traveled road, people are likely not going to stop to take it your information on that road. You don't really want them to. That's dangerous, right. And so you want to position yourself at the driveway after they pull in, if you're able to do that. Now we every scenario so different we can't tell you exactly what you can do. Definitely pray through, think through, figure out where the boundaries are, the property lines and all that stuff, and put your your team and yourself in an optimal position. I'll give an example. Here at Latrobe they're actually two driveways that people will pull into. The first driveway, which is the main driveway, which is where we always have someone plays, is the driveway to the abortion center, but there's also a call center driveway just down from it and often times people miss the primary driveway and go and that driveway to either park or to turn around, and so we want to have someone there because they're able to get people going in and coming back out, if they're turning around and coming back out, good to the main parking lot.

So thinking through things like that, I've used Google maps and Google maps will show you if you want to know, because we're on a loop here. So latrobe drive is a big loop and people could come around either side of the loop. If I only have two people and I need somebody out in front of you abortion center and I need someone handed out literature, I want to figure out, okay, where most people coming from so I can know where to place that one other person that I have. Where's my optimal position going to be? So I'll put it in Google maps and I find that most people come around one side of the loop and so I'm going to position somebody that side first and then, if I had an extra person, to position them on the other side of the loop. Yeah, and so just you know, of course, using some some of these tools like Google maps, like apple maps and things like that, but you figure out what to do. Is your teach it can and where you know what we could have whittled it down one more because actually the next one is very similar to to strategically set team members in an optimal desition, not only to pass out literature, which was the point before, but where they're going to reach the MOM's most effective. Yeah, so where they had the moms can hear us, you know, don't clump together in the in the in the team. Where you set up your team? Yeah, try to make sure that people are spread out, not not chit chatting with each other. So that it's very important to be strategic and how you set up your teams. We've only had to team members the past couple of days and honestly, we've had a lot of interactions, which is kind of surprising and counterintuitive, but sometimes when you have fewer people or people spread really far out, you're just less threatening. Yeah, and sometimes you do have more interactions. People are more willing to come and talk with you. So if you have a large team, be sure to spread them out. Yeah, that is an absolute must, because people do gravitate toward each other. YEA, and we have to remember we're not out there to protest against a calls or something like that. We're...

...out there to reach the women and the men going into the bortion center. So if we spread out more and we get more strategic about the way we place people rather than, I mean, if you want to use signs, sign ministries really powerful, but having ten people come together with ten different signs all on the same spot, no one's reading those signs. Yeah, it's like they miss the forest for the trees. If you spread people out up the road or you know, however, however the layout is, those messages can kind of be trickled as the women are coming, although I would say upon each other that the message is is is building. Yeah, so that by the time you get to the person with the literature, people maybe have kind of been are more inclined to stop. Yeah, yeah, I do think, though, it's good to have a consistent message. Obviously, yes, and what you're displaying on your signs, but that's not really one of the essentials here, right, right. But an essential is to begin an end in team prayer is so easy, honestly, to we love prayer, but it's just so busy out there. Every moment is kind of a crisis moment. It's really sometimes hard, but it be very intentional. Yeah, to begin and end in prayer because you're calling God into this battle. It is right battle anyway. So for us to remind ourselves of that, I think is is real yeah, and mordant. This really dedicating the time to the Lord. I really think that praying together before and after helps continue that unity and just acknowledge that unity that we have because we're the body of Christ, but also again acknowledge our reliance on the Lord. We need him, we don't have the stuff figured out ourselves. I think that's really important. I think it's also a witnessed all the other people out there, the pro abortion people, the the MOM's, even if they see you bowing your head and being in prayer. Yeah, this one is the next one. Keeping the priority of ministry focus in mind, I think is a really important one. It is so easy to get distracted, but just remember our main ministry...

...focus are those moms. Yeah, and and the unborn child. Yeah, always glorifying God, but but the ministry is to the UNBOARD babies. And it is easy to just get mad at the pro abortion crowd and right screaming at them, or even the doctor, or socalled doctor, the abortionist or the workers, and and we'll lose our what should be our priority? Richer the MOM's yeah, yeah, keep keep that in mind. And Yeah, I like this next one. Yeah, and this has this really speaks to discipleship and, yeah, training others. Yeah, and this is whenever possible, have an experienced counselor guiding and modeling for newer counselors. You've got people who've been out there, we do here in Charlotte, that have been out here on the sidewalk seven, eight years, right, so maybe even more than that. And then, of course you've got brand new people that have come along and some of your cities, you guys, may not have people that have been out there for years. Maybe you have people that have been out there for months. They've been out there longer than you're newer people and they can show them the robes. They can. It's just it just helps give people more confidence when they're being an apprentice to someone else, right, they're coming alongside someone else who's done it before. That's how just help still confidence, right. That's how yeah, his disciples. Yeah, it was really apprenticeship kind of. They they watch Jesus in action and that's that's how they learned. Yeah, but and if you don't have experienced people, you know contact us. Yeah, we start watch our podcast, watch our mock videos, because that you can learn a lot in that way if you don't have experienced people on the sidewalk to learn from. Yeah, and that gets into the ninth one. To practice role playing difficult and common situations. You can practice even if you don't have experienced, but if you practice with your team members, what are some of the issues you have faced? And then you go over what could I have said, what could you have said, and you'll you'll know more the longer you've been out there, where the typical...

...things you're going to face. But role playing is such a great way. Yeah, learn. Yeah, absolutely, being in the crisis situation. Yeah. So, yeah, the next one was one that was in place here in Charlotte before I ever came on board, and I think it's a really important way to build team unity. Yeah, absolutely. We've talked about this before, and that's having some kind of central point. You have on here a team landing page, basically a place, a group, whether it be a facebook group. There's all kinds of stuff. Now there's telegram, there's what's APP, there's I don't know, there's all kinds of ways, text group, email, thread, whatever. I think facebook groups are the best personally, because there's so much there. You can add to the files section, certain files and certain things that people can download for you know, like the talking points thing that we did, or kind of like the oneliners that you did, resource guide, stuff like that, we have in the file section on our facebook group. But either way, some kind of way that you can encourage each other, some way that you can put a scripture out there, something the Lord put on your heart for that day of Ministry. And also I think it's important that you have somebody heading up the ministry for that day. We call a team lead. That puts out a report so that everybody else on that group can know what's going on. It's it's really helpful for everybody to know. Maybe you're we talked about this before. Your Tuesday team doesn't really know the people on the Monday team, but they see their report every week and they're encouraged by it. And maybe the Wednesday team had a bad week, but they can be encouraged by what God did the next day on Thursday, and there's some Continui, there's some connection there. Wednesday team maybe had a challenge with somebody in a particular vehicle and they can say hey, watch out for this vehicle tomorrow because they're going to give you problems. Because we do see today abortions and we see people come back multiple...

...days for various reasons that are coming to the abortion center. So it's just a way to keep that continuity, that connection with each other and to know that you're in this battle together with others, not by yourself. Yeah, and it's also great place for people in leadership position to encourage and praise specific things they may have seen out on the sidewalk in specific team members, just to say we notice you. Yeah, we noticed what you've done and this was really good, and to then for the team also to be able to express when there's been things that have been really hard. Yeah, and and what you know, ask for advice. How do we deal with this better? Yeah. So, yeah, just a way to stay connected. Yeah, it is. When moms do choose life, and they will eventually. If your brand new, don't worry, it'll come. Your Day will come. Yeah, you will choose life and when they do, ask them why they chose life at some point point in your discussion with them and what I do is I keep a word doc of the how MOMS have responded to that question, and it becomes such a valuable way to train sidebock counselors. These are some things that have worked in the past. We should probably use them again. Yeah, yeah, because they they we know that they're effective. So I think that that's helpful. And having that word doc that you can send out, yeah, to new volunteers. In fact, we've got it printed off of four pages. I think we've shared that on a podcast. Yeah, and and then new counselors can look at these one liners of things that MOMS have said. These were effective things that that they heard. Yeah, in conjunction with this, what I also do, and I do recommend it, I think it's really a good way to stay in touch with the MOMS, is to have a group blind copy email list of moms that have chosen life. Yeah, and then every single morning I will send out a scripture to this group, which is grown to be quite large now. So...

...so they're they sometimes are following or I'm following them for years. This, this list is now nine years old, sir. So I pretty much started it from the beginning of me being on the sidewalk and then you can also pull them if you need, you know, kind of a consensus of MOMS. You if you get donations, you can put it on the list. It's really a useful, easy way to stay in touch with the group's yeah, moms that have chosen light. Yeah, so we've had situations where somebody reaches out to us as a ministry and says, Hey, I have a refrigerator that I would like to donate to a mom in need. Do you guys have anybody? You've got a list of a hundred and fifty moms on an email thread. You shoot it out there. Hey, any you guys in need a refrigerator? And we've had that very thing play out where we have a volunteer go and deliver the refrigerator. And that's another way to continue to minister to these ladies show, in the love of Jesus, keep connected. So the lie to the pro abortion claim that we're just pro birth. Yeah, because some of these women, like I said, I've been following nine years and some of them from nine years ago I've reached out and said, hey, I really need a kitchen table. Yeah, I see, you know something like that and we do we try to have ongoing hell, Yep, but that's just an easy way to do that. Yeah, number twelve you have here on the list, very important and we've talked about this not too long ago. We talked about I think is the podcast where we said let the words of our mouth be true. Right, always true, or something like it. Completely true, maybe like that, something like that. But this is never make promises you cannot keep. This is important. Yeah, that we shouldn't say things like will provide for all of your needs, will take care of everything. That's just not true. We couldn't do that. It's impossible to take care of every need. Always will say, I said this on that podcast, that we have resources to help with whatever...

...needs you have. So we have resources that will help with whatever need you have, never promising that we're going to take care of every issue, but promising that we will do our best. I think that's how you word it. We will do our best to help get you connected with resources that meet whatever needs you have. Right. And and if you have said you're going to do something, another important part of this is followed through. Yeah, do it right, because these women I have oftentimes faced so much lies. Yeah, ejection, deceit and and so we need to build their trust in God ultimately, by we are God's voice. Yeah, where yes, messengers and and we need to follow through on anything that we have said we will do. Yeah, an example, a simple example of that, as I'll say, you have a mom that chose life and you've connected with her and you've told her, because this is what we encourage when we train people, this is what encourage you to do. Tell them that you will follow up with them later that day. I set a time, get their phone number, give them your phone number and say can I follow up with you at three PM Today? Yeah, which I think is important, because the enemy is going to be speaking lies, going to be tempted them to make another appointment. Come back. If you say you're going to call them at three o'clock, call them at three o'clock right, text them at three o'clock. Whatever you said you were going to do, do it now. Don't always expect for them to answer. I mean again, they're there's some stuff going on, some chaos going on in their lives, so don't be offended if they don't answer. Yeah, but inasmuch as it depends on you, do what you said you would do. Yeah, and that's just one example of many others that promises you might make in your zeal to help that mom who's who's choosing life or who you want to choose life. Yeah, yeah, so be careful with your zeal. Yeah, careful that. We know you're...

...excited and you you want to promise this mom in the world, but be very careful that it. Like, I just had a conversation a couple days ago with the MOM and I listed off all of the things that I was going to send her immediately. One of them was an online Bible. She didn't even have a Bible. Yeah, I was going to send her the link to an online Bible and I actually said, as soon as I get off the phone, I'll do that. And I got off the phone and I forgot. Yeah, so it was like it was like a half an hour later when I remembered and I was in the middle of other stuff, but I zipped back and and did that and said I'm so sorry, you know, I apologized and because I had told her I'd send it right away. Yeah, she was very grateful to get it, but that was that's an example of something that maybe didn't seem like such a big deal. Yeah, but when I said I'm going to get off the phone and send you this, that's what I should have done. Yeah, and we all need to be really careful. Yeah, no doubt. Number Thirteen, Number Thirteen, Gospel Center do. Yeah, this is a big one. Yeah, and it's or thirteen to say that. That's true. We could, we could add on the bonus idea. I think this one sanctifies the number thirteen. If you're superstitious. True, this will take care of that, so good for it. Okay, never neglect the Gospel. Yeah, we talked in the past about be careful with the message of forgiveness at the wrong time because moms might be using it, are using it as justification to abort. Yeah, but the Gospel is the power of Christ to save, and so we absolutely cannot neglect the gospel. Right. We need to find a way to work the Gospel in whenever you have any kind of prolonged interaction with the MOM's yeah, and even in literature that you hand out. Yeah, we have in our literature that we use Love Life, the the Gospel. It's like a one paragraph clear explanation of the Gospel, laying it out right. There's Gospel tracks out there and now, I do think we talked about this in another episode a while back about handing out literature. I do think it's...

...a bad idea to hand them one brochure and then a Gospel Track and then a gospel of John and then a video about, you know, explaining the Gospel, like too much stuff. They're going to just throw it aside and not not even read it at all. One good piece of literature maybe too if you have brochures at you hand out, maybe the tiny hands brochures they have scripture woven through them. But maybe you want to add a gospel track in there. That's great, but you just don't want to glow to it with too much stuff. But I do think having the Gospel in whatever literature you hand out is really important. So I really like our literature for that reason, because I think it has all of the main critical things in one very succinct pamphlet. Yeah, it's only a trifold pamphlet. It's got the three talking points, development of the baby, what God says about the baby, a smallest of resources. It has the Gospel in a like a paragraph, and and then it has some pertinent scripture yell in one. Yeah, so I think it's really, really valuable. Yeah, we made it. We have enough time to give us some of the bonus ideas. We get just a few minutes. Okay, so let's let's knock out some of the bonus ideas. Here's the the bonus essentials. You know what I already said. Number one, so the email is blind copyright. We already sent that one, so you don't need to worry about that one. Have key numbers on your phone. Yeah, yeah, so things like pregnancy resource centers, right, a high risk doctor who would council for free if you can find one. We have one. We talked about that in our lawst top maternity centers, the how for housing, correct key issues. So think what the top issues are going to be. Childcare is another one, and if you can have a resource speed dial on your phone or, you know, easily reached on your phone, those are important. Yeah, number three, which is might seem self serving, but we do these podcasts to serve you guys...

...who are listening. Listen to our podcasts because we talk on a regular basis about sidewalk out reach. I think it's probably a rare niche that we cover. We're involved in this world of ministry, so we're not just talking about things that are theory to us. Their experiences that we have and I think these podcasts will continue to encourage you, let you know that there are other people doing this ministry, if you're involved in this ministry. And, yeah, I think we have a little bit to offer in this world of ministry. That will that will equip you. Yeah, yeah, we've had lots of people tell us, yeah, that it's very quipping. The next one we kind of went over, but but number six on our bonus ideas was practice sharing the gospel in five minutes. Yeah, and we talked about you know, having a paragraph on the literature is good, but but if you can speak it in if you've only got a limited time and you can do that in five minutes, I think that's very valuable. Yeah, that you've planted that seed and the only way you're going to be able to do that, honestly, is practice it. You really do have to practice it. Yeah, because most of us will go on and on and on. Right, yeah, and it'll they'll get bored, they want to leave whatever. Yeah, yeah, right, right now. And then the last one. We got through all of them. The last one is social media. Present presence is very important for attracting volunteers, for letting others know what the ministry is all about, for letting abortion minded people know that there's a ministry out there. Yeah, but always keep in mind confidentiality is really important patients of the MOMS. Yeah, don't post pictures of MOMS, don't videotape MOMS, don't do any of that without explicit, probably written, permission, because that will destroy the trust, yea, of those MOMS to come and confide in you. Yeah. Yeah, so you can post stories, but keep them...

...general. Yeah, General. So a mom can't be identified, right, yeah, like we often do. We've been in this podcast. We don't identified by their name. We give them a fake name or just call them by the first letter of their name or something like that. But social media is powerful. Yeah, I could have a pray request. Yeah, and social media, even while I'm going through it. Sometimes I'll put out a facebook post. Hey, mom, I'm talking to a mom and she's in the Valley of the decision with you all. Pray Right, yeah, you can't. It can be powerful. That's good. We hope this list of essentials helped you and hope it was an encouragement to you. We'd love for you to reach out to us. Maybe there's some things that are essential for your outreach ministry that we wouldn't we didn't talk about. Maybe we do a whole podcast about it, I don't know. Reach out to us, reach out to meet Daniel at Love Life Dot Org. You can reach her Vicky at Love Life Dot Org. We'd love to hear from you, guys, and until next time, God bless God, bless you all. It out left for love. Give me our life for gratitude. I know it will cost me my life. Nothing's too precious since I met you.

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